Blaming Others

Hey! Welcome to this week’s Wednesday Lunchtime Blog. It is… I don’t even know what week it is, actually. So, welcome! I’m really enjoying the regularity of having a continuous foundation with this blog. The fact it’s always on a Wednesday lunchtime is a good opportunity for people to have a quick read on their break, while their travelling, walking the dog or whatever else people do when they have some time for themselves. It’s a good platform for you to have a dig deeper into your mind.

Today’s subject touches on the other side of the spectrum of responsibility which I touched base on The U Turn Podcast: the concept of blaming others. I’ve witnessed this happen a lot in my adult life. Even when people do take responsibility and make that clear, there’s always a blame factor in some shape or form. Sometimes that can’t be avoided in terms due to context, but we unfortunately live in a society where a lot people do blame everyone but themselves. This is a really interesting subject to dive into this week as I feel even when you think you’ve taken responsibility for certain actions, in my experience, you still end up pointing fingers at some point. It’s about communication and how you articulate things.

It’s an important subject as I definitely feel that we all struggle with laying blame and not taking responsibility. It’s amazing how it can affect you if you go through your day surrounded by people in this mind set. I’ve witnessed this happen and I’ve even tested certain scenarios to see how people react, not in a manipulative way, just in way that reassures me that even if I had tried to meet in the middle, they wouldn’t have taken any blame anyway.

It’s a really tough subject to talk briefly about, so the next episode of The U Turn Podcast (episode 43), I will be delving even deeper into the concept of blaming others. But this Wednesday lunchtime, I’d just like to remind you to question where the blame lies. Perhaps your colleague or your boss is blaming you for something that’s genuinely not your responsibility. Perhaps you’re feeling sensitive to it and it’s clouding your judgement as you take in every other person’s point of view. But if it is your responsibility, you also need to have that conversation and say you actually do take responsibility for this, which of course is attached to the fear factor and many other elements which I don’t have time to go into right now.

In my own experience, people will point the finger and try to blame you without taking any responsibility themselves. Or they’ll try and articulate that they are to blame but take the ‘easy’ way out by saying it without meaning it. It’s about actions not words. If someone is to blame, they therefore need to change what needs to change so it doesn’t arise again.

Have a think about it. Thanks for joining and I’ll see you next week.